Category Archives: Self Regulation Therapy SRT

Strategies Resilient People Use During Times Of Transition To Maintain Happiness

Life is full of transition and we often think that being resilient means that we get through just about everything without getting ruffled. Immune to depression or anxiety or any less than optimal state. Well that’s just not true. Life isn’t always optimal – it doesn’t make it easy. And that’s not what resilience is […]

How To Handle Rejection And Not Get Stuck

Rejection stings for everyone No one is immune and we all have experienced it in some area of our lives. Multiple areas. The job you didn’t get, the team you didn’t make, the relationship you thought you wanted, the connection you hoped you’d find. I’ve had rejection on multiple levels. I’m no exception. Particularly in […]

How Resilient People Deal With Disappointment and Other Crushing Blows

I remember a time a few years ago when I felt like I had everything together. I remember thinking I had it made. My family was running like a well oiled machine. My businesses were totally on track and growing. Not just gifted to me – I had worked hard. Tirelessly. Relentlessly. For my family. […]

What Resilience Is Not…Coping Skills Gone Bad

We know that resilience is more than just controlling emotions or managing behaviors or being able to push through and withstand extreme stressors without losing your sh–. And in fact a lot of these skills I call out as a load of crap – verbatim just after 4:35 in this video 😉 But we have […]

Why Developing A Superiority Complex Is A Good Idea

Oh I know… we’re taught the opposite. You’re not better than anyone. Treat everyone as equals. Level the playing field. We’re all supposed to be the same. And we are. As far as rights and freedoms, humanity and decency. But we aren’t as far as how we treat each other always. I’m not advocating that […]

When what "feels right", is wrong – your brain in love… (like a junkie).

Why what “feels right” is often wrong – (aka don’t ever go back to an ex and 3 ways to break the addiction) I had been down this road before. But I thought this time might be different. Time had passed. I had changed. He had changed. At least I thought he had. I went back […]

How to Break Through Mental Blocks and Achieve Victory in Your Life

When was the last time you did something surprising… remarkable… out of your normal routine? I wondered this the other weekend as I watched my daughter compete at a provincial championship trampoline and tumbling competition. I knew she had struggled leading up to this event. She had a mental block on one of the routines […]

30 Days to Happiness. How to Live Longer and Feel Better.

My social media has been riddled with many recent research reports on the topic of happiness. Not just the state of happiness, how to achieve it and keep it, but also the impact of happiness on our minds and our bodies. Happiness is essential, not optional and there are proven ways to attain this state […]

3 Ways to Conquer Self Sacrifice and the Martyr Mindset to Find Happiness

We know that the glorification of busy is unhealthy and annoying. We know that constant self sacrifice and other passive aggressive behaviour we use to highlight how much we give and how little we get back is obnoxious. But we do it anyway. Have you noticed yourself pouncing on the podium on this one? Surely […]