Category Archives: counselling profession

Strategies Resilient People Use During Times Of Transition To Maintain Happiness

Life is full of transition and we often think that being resilient means that we get through just about everything without getting ruffled. Immune to depression or anxiety or any less than optimal state. Well that’s just not true. Life isn’t always optimal – it doesn’t make it easy. And that’s not what resilience is […]

What Resilience Is Not…Coping Skills Gone Bad

We know that resilience is more than just controlling emotions or managing behaviors or being able to push through and withstand extreme stressors without losing your sh–. And in fact a lot of these skills I call out as a load of crap – verbatim just after 4:35 in this video 😉 But we have […]

30 Days to Happiness. How to Live Longer and Feel Better.

My social media has been riddled with many recent research reports on the topic of happiness. Not just the state of happiness, how to achieve it and keep it, but also the impact of happiness on our minds and our bodies. Happiness is essential, not optional and there are proven ways to attain this state […]

3 Ways to Conquer Self Sacrifice and the Martyr Mindset to Find Happiness

We know that the glorification of busy is unhealthy and annoying. We know that constant self sacrifice and other passive aggressive behaviour we use to highlight how much we give and how little we get back is obnoxious. But we do it anyway. Have you noticed yourself pouncing on the podium on this one? Surely […]

The Only Way Out, Is Through

  Everyone goes through struggles and difficult times. Most people are aware of people that care about them that are around to support them. When time goes on and you don’t feel better, it’s a good time to look at professional support. Sometimes getting support and therapy feels like it’s not enough. The change isn’t […]

How to Spot a Liar? Stop Trying.

How to Spot a Liar. 10 ways to tell if someone is lying based on psychology, neuroscience, or the latest social science paper of the week. We see these lists all the time. We want to be super sleuths or at least have Wonder Woman’s lasso of truth to figure it all out. We spend inordinate amounts […]

3 Mistakes To Avoid When Setting Boundaries

Boundaries – the word has become such a buzz word in therapy and in relationships in general. I think it’s cool that it’s being talked about and becoming an important part of discussions. I used to be terrible at setting boundaries. I lacked the confidence to be okay with setting a boundary and having the […]

Four Steps to Releasing What Holds You Back

  What hold us back from living the life we want or achieving the goals we have in mind is usually not others or circumstances, but what we allow to hold us back in ourselves. How can you release what’s holding you back as you move into the next year of your life? Look at […]

Shame on You! Using Parental Guilt to Change and Be Better.

Working with children and teens for the past few years, without exception the issue has been that their parents are screwing up. Their parents are screwing up in the way they are living – in front of them or behind their backs. Often through divorce or separation but not always. People who don’t treat others […]