Tag Archives: healthy relationships

Mini-session: Why You’re A Relationship Failure (and why we all are)

Why relationships don’t work? Lack of awareness of unconscious beliefs that contribute to unhealthy dynamics. Lack of understanding on what healthy relationships look like, how they’re built, how they’re sustained, and how to transition from chemical “love” to mature love. Misunderstanding about desire, attraction, and the danger of being addicted to the novelty of love […]

How To Create Connection And Improve Your Relationships

We have become really good at being really shallow. We flit around connecting more electronically from behind screens than we do in person. We don’t make eye contact. We don’t hold eye contact. We don’t touch each other. Handshakes are weak and flimsy. We step back to keep our distance. This is how we treat […]

When What “Feels Right” Is Wrong – Your Brain In Love… (Like A Junkie)

Why what “feels right” is often wrong – (aka don’t ever go back to an ex and 3 ways to break the addiction) I had been down this road before. But I thought this time might be different. Time had passed. I had changed. He had changed. At least I thought he had. I went back […]

When what "feels right", is wrong – your brain in love… (like a junkie).

Why what “feels right” is often wrong – (aka don’t ever go back to an ex and 3 ways to break the addiction) I had been down this road before. But I thought this time might be different. Time had passed. I had changed. He had changed. At least I thought he had. I went back […]

How Women Are Destroying Their Relationships and 3 Ways to Repair Them

Don’t come down on me just yet. It takes two to tango – I get that. I’m not blaming one partner over another either. I am going to address a theme that I’ve seen in my practice over the past few years and one that I see echoed in women I know. As the other […]

3 Mistakes To Avoid When Setting Boundaries

Boundaries – the word has become such a buzz word in therapy and in relationships in general. I think it’s cool that it’s being talked about and becoming an important part of discussions. I used to be terrible at setting boundaries. I lacked the confidence to be okay with setting a boundary and having the […]

Modelling Healthy Relationships. Who's watching?

I often talk about how we are in relationships with others and that’s really a generic term to refer to all connections with other people but today I’m talking about romantic relationships and partnerships and the importance of modelling healthy ones. Certainly for our own happiness we need to learn about healthy relationships and seek […]

What's In It For Me? The Taboo Question You Should Be Asking.

What’s In It For Me? It’s the question in relationships we’re told not to ask. We’re typically more encouraged to be givers than receivers and if we focus on our own wants or needs we are scolded for being selfish. While there’s certainly a time and place for benevolence and servitude, we shouldn’t be praising […]

Two Essentials for Healthy Relationships

1. Do Your Own Work 2. Know What You Want The expanded version below: Do your own work. Everyone has been hurt. We’ve all had disappointing experiences in our relationships – and some have been down right nasty and even traumatic. It’s important to do the work on yourself not just while you’re in a […]