Author Archives: Tara Miller

Mini-session: Why You’re A Relationship Failure (and why we all are)

Why relationships don’t work? Lack of awareness of unconscious beliefs that contribute to unhealthy dynamics. Lack of understanding on what healthy relationships look like, how they’re built, how they’re sustained, and how to transition from chemical “love” to mature love. Misunderstanding about desire, attraction, and the danger of being addicted to the novelty of love […]

Focus on the “When” and not the “How” for stress management

Why you get stuck. How to get unstuck. Not by talking through it, pushing through it, writing it down or otherwise focusing on the problems. Not even by problem-solving strategies and focusing on “how” to mitigate stress and get out of it. Fast forwarding to “when” is a way to instantly reduce stress and get […]

Chronic Pain Is In The Brain…as Much As It Is The Body

Check out this interview I did with Dr. Tyna Moore talking about chronic pain and the brain – and the importance of brain and body, collaborative care for patients with chronic pain.  And that sometimes we can prevent and even eliminate it with neurobiological approaches like SRT (Self Regulation Therapy). Tune in here: http://bit.ly/drtynapfs     […]

From PTSD, anxiety, and medications to healthy, happy living

I’ve seen it so many times. People who have continued to try to find healing for their trauma and been bold an courageous enough to trust again and find hope. The capacity of human resilience should never be questioned. You are always more resilient than you think. And therapy can actually be fun… and it […]

The Problem With Modern Relationships (And The Bad Advice You Get)

Insight, mutuality, emotional regulation. This Ted Talk breaks down 3 important elements for healthy relationships. https://youtu.be/gh5VhaicC6g In my couples sessions and the teaching I do I refer to all of this under the umbrella of “emotional literacy”. Often the work we do is about teaching people to prioritize work in this area and work on trying to […]

This Year Was The Worst Year Ever!

But actually for most, it really wasn’t. Here’s an end of year wrap up and resilience check. 1. Check your context 2. Self regulate using gratitude, meditation, mindfulness 3. Reframe your experience and redefine success 4. Renegotiate your perceptions… If you survived this year… it’s a success. If you’re primary relationship and your friendships are […]

How To Survive (And Look Forward To) The Holidays

My favourite time of the year. For so many reasons. Reflection, Gratitude, Learning, Goal Setting. I love the whole process and this is a natural time of year to get it. The holidays are not great for everyone though. Our losses seem more profound during the holidays. We see more of what we’re missing. More […]

The ONE thing you need to survive

This is a different post. Because I go deep down into what brought me to a place of healing others… by exposing my own healing. It’s not secret.  It’s in my E-book in chunks. And even this doesn’t cover all of it. There was even more. Extortion, threats, physical violence, emotional pain. Not unique. This […]

Why I never recommend EMDR for trauma treatment…(and why that makes me unpopular)

And why I’m ok with that… Here’s where most, including this article miss the boat.  https://www.scientificamerican.com/article/emdr-taking-a-closer-look/ Exposure therapy, talk therapy, and EMDR often decrease reported symptoms temporarily by walking a person through the horrors of their life from start to finish. Linear… retrieving from their memories in the exact same way it happened. But what fires […]

3 Bold Ways To Prevent Burnout (No Excuses Allowed)

If you’re an ambitious, motivated, self-directed, type-A personality… you’re wired to be curious, bold, and in constant active mode.   And that’s a good thing.   In fact, it can be great.   What makes it not so great is that you’re also prone to burn out.   Classic burn out symptoms can include lack […]